Dear MUB,

So my story might be a little lengthy but I need to vent. First of all, I come from a middle-class family in Antigua and we live a comfortable life. When I was 17, I started having sex with our landscape man. I went to study overseas, came back and we started a relationship but I didn’t let my family know.qj no

He’s the only man I have ever been with and I am now 28. The problem I am having now is he does not want to elevate in life and because of that, I have to be paying for everything. He cut yard but he only gets small jobs, I tried numerous times to use my family connections to get him a better job but he never showed up.

I spoke to him about it and he said he doesn’t care about money like I do and he will get upset with me. He’s 20 years older than I am and I am tired of acting like the oldest in the relationship. MUB, not even his rent he can pay in full. His rent is $550 because he is basically in a small room, and the other day his landlord told me he haven’t paid in 3 months.

I had to go to the bank the same day and pay it off. Now I have another problem. I found out that I am pregnant. I want to come clean to my parents but I know they will not approve of him. MUB,  I don’t know what to do, I can’t stop crying. I have enough money to take care of my child on my own but I didn’t want my child to have a worthless father.

I was planning to break up with him but now I am pregnant and I don’t know what to do. I am open to advice from your followers because I really don’t want to abort my first child.


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Molvin James
Molvin James
March 2, 2024 10:54 am

He is too old for you , so you should just let it go. He doesn’t worth your time and yes you should abort the child .You are 28 you will find love and happiness again and that potential bustard will stand in the way.

Cleavern Pierre
Cleavern Pierre
March 2, 2024 8:59 am

First of all no man that doesn’t want to elevate himself in life should be elevating on your body period. You’re already by yourself hun the fact that you’re paying off back rent for him when he chooses not to do better. That child already has a worthless father cause You’re already pregnant and he’s already worthless. So you gotta put on your big girl draws and let your family know cause since you plan on keeping the child is only a matter of time before they find out. So come clean and move on with your life. As for the stumbling block that’s in your way please put on glasses if the need be and move him out of your way. They’re still great men out there looking for a good person to settle down with hun.
Never settle for less because less is exactly what you going to get. All the best

March 2, 2024 8:40 am

But how you .el a man that nah want elevate in life wink up in ya pork